How to know if you have shame: An agreement that changed everything

adameveMan and Woman had very little idea of what happened that day. Together, they made an agreement with deception.

This agreement changed everything!



In one agreement with deception man and woman questioned the character of God. In one agreement with deception man and woman questioned their own value. When man and woman questioned the goodness of God, when they removed him as King, when they question the good created in their own design, shame entered the world. Unacceptability entered the world. “Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked, so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.” Once naked and unashamed… now, naked and ashamed.

Everything changed.

Shame and unacceptability. Two words that convey the result of a tragic agreement. Two words that literally change the way man and woman interact with their good God who is King and two words that change the way in which they relate to one another and all that are to come.

God, met man and woman in the garden, although he knew where they were, he asked a question, as though an invitation to truth. “Where are you?” He asked.

“Why are you hiding from me?”

“Did you eat of the tree I commanded you not to?”

Man spoke first, “The woman you put here with me – she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”


Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”

The woman replied, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”


Oh the tragic reality of an agreement with deception. As man and woman walked in this new agreement, they no longer operated from a place of acceptability, love and trust, they now approached life and God with assumed unacceptability and shame. Blame, a sign of fear, stems from shame and unacceptability.  When man and woman blamed, they did so because they were afraid as a result of their shame. They knew they had disobeyed and disregarded the word of their good God who is King and hid from him, hid their bodies, and hid from truth.

The broken relationship with a good King caused both man and woman to hide, to blame and to lie.

In one tragic agreement, everything changed, the effects of which we continue to feel today.

How do you experience the effects of this new agreement in your life?

Think about blame for a moment. What does blame stem from in your own life?

I’d love to know your thoughts as we journey through this story… our story.


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